Performance parenting
In this video, Lory and Jessika explain that performance parenting is of course a result of our performance-driven society. Parents often seek to be perfect, putting enormous pressure on themselves to succeed at everything for the well-being of their children. This quest for perfection can lead to increased stress, depression, and even anger.
The consequences of excessive performance
Many parents feel guilty about not being able to do everything perfectly, when spending quality time with their children, even in simple ways, is often enough. The tendency to perform often even extends to managing children's emotions.
Back to basics
For Lory and Jessika, it is therefore crucial to refocus on the essential: the parent-child relationship. It is about valuing simple moments and detaching oneself from unrealistic expectations. Parents must learn to accept their limits and not compare themselves to others.
It is important to take a step back and ask yourself: "Is what I am doing really important for my child's happiness?" We must therefore detach ourselves from the idealized vision of the "good parent" and focus instead on the well-being of our children.
Tips for Kinder Parenting
- Take a step back : assess whether the actions taken are really necessary and beneficial
- Value simple moments : focus on the quality of the relationship rather than the quantity of activities
- Accepting your limits : recognizing that it is impossible to meet all of your child's needs at all times
- Avoid comparison : detach yourself from the standards imposed by society and focus on what is really important for your family
Listen to this video to learn more about all the challenges and benefits associated with parenting performance!